“Life’s too short not to sparkle”
It sure as hell is. Oh, I should tell you now: I have the vocabulary of a well-educated sailor. So if you’re offended by the occasional colorful word…well, there’s a big wide internet out there – choose your own adventure.
Where was I?
Right. Life’s too short not to sparkle. It’s also too short not to live authentically.
“Authentic”.
That word gets thrown around a lot in personal development and, sadly, I’ve seen too many people lately who have taken to using “authenticity” as a blanket excuse for bad behavior.
Let’s clear this up right now:
Being “authentic” and being “yourself” does NOT give you license to be:
- an unbridled asshole
- an emotional blackmailer
- an irresponsible steward of this planet and the human experience
- one of those unspeakable demons who will open a can of tuna on an airplane (WHY)
Nope, sorry. Self-responsibility still 100% applies.
Authenticity means you own who YOU are from a healthy and aligned place- not who you think you should be for others to be loved or accepted (hint: you aren’t the only human struggling with “never feeling good enough”). When you give yourself permission to be “you”, when you deeply know your own worth, when you consistently make choices in alignment with your highest good, when you understand how to be both compassionate and set strong boundaries when necessary – THAT is living authentically.
This blog is about the journey of embodying self-worth and stepping into a life that is authentically YOU.
Sparkle on…💖
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